November 29, 2021 at 8:53 pm #1823Emma1894Participant
I’ve read the section and watched the videos on safe space but still confused.
Are we referring to a literal safe space to work through the wellbeing programme (i.e bedroom, study etc) or a metaphorical place (i.e beach or garden).
If the latter, my happy place is a live music gig with loud rock music and thousands of people singing and cheering (which isn’t very quiet or peaceful).
Otherwise the only other place I can think of is in my bed alone in the dark.
So, basically I’m not sure what I meant to be thinking here and if it is right?!November 30, 2021 at 8:41 pm #1838ModeratorBrianKeymaster
As I understand it, the videos refer to a metaphorical safe space.
This can be based on memories of a place you enjoy being, or they can be simple concepts of areas that make you feel relaxed. I’m not too sure about using a concert as a safe space though, as that still sounds like an exciting environment (remember, not all stresses in our lives are negative!), but the important part is that it works for you.
All of that said, a safe physical environment is still going to be important – it will be a lot easier to relax in an environment you feel secure in, after all.
I hope this helps!December 1, 2021 at 4:40 pm #1840MelKeymaster
Interesting question Emma, it can be both! In our minds we create a metaphorical space, but it is based on a real space you have been somewhere in your life where you felt safe. It works best if it is a place where there were no/few people or at least only people who you feel safe and can be completely you and real with. A happy place is great to have too, but if you are surrounded by strangers in this space in your mind, it wouldn’t feel to your mind/body/unconscious 100% safe.
I use a beach in Cornwall I have visited often, I know people who use their bedrooms or relaxing in the bath, although if you have PAs etc in your bedroom this may not work for you. Do you have any memories of feeling peaceful in nature? It’s important to say though, that some people may struggle with recalling a memory of a real place/space they have felt safe, if that’s the case you can also use an imaginary space in your mind. What are your thoughts? We could discuss this on the 8th? Good to have feedback as we will amend the resource as we receive feedback.December 1, 2021 at 7:59 pm #1844Emma1894Participant
Thanks Brian & Mel (Altho Mel your reply doesn’t appear here but just in my email inbox?!)
As I have 24 hour care I’m very rarely alone. The only places I’m alone is watching TV in my lounge or working/playing/browsing on my laptop/ipad in my bedroom.
I’m not a big fan of outdoors unless there is live music involved.
Actually one option could be stroking my pet rabbit. Or in my room listening to music, watching my favourite TV show/film or reading my favourite audiobook?!
An imaginary option is living at Hogwarts!
Not sure if any of this works but worth adding to the live events maybe?December 1, 2021 at 10:29 pm #1845MelKeymaster
Some great ideas, let us know how you get on trialling that and certainly we can discuss more next Sunday. Pets are a great way to feel safe, as they are so grounded in the here and now, their heart rate, breathing and warmth can help us restore to balance/rest when we are activated.
You know I have heard other people mention Harry Potter over the years in various coping strategies, you are not the first 🙂
Hmmm, we’re still getting into the tech side of things, so will investigate why the forum posts are not appearing…
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