[Julie86]

Words were the discussion topic in this week’s live event. We talked about being offended by words. How can you be offended by a word? How can a word cause you harm? The old wives tale of sticks and stones can break your bones but calling names cannot hurt you.
Each person views words differently.
I definitely view words differently because I struggle with comprehension.
In the group sessions I am told I am offended by bad words. No I am not offended by them. I do not recognise if a word is bad used. I just learn the words and use them in my sentences.
I want to continue the chat here in the open so others in spokz can join in.
How do you find words? How do you find comprehending a word? Do you just hear a word and know it is a good or bad word? Do you have difficulties knowing what is a good or bad word? Do you know how to change a word in a sentence? Or are you like me once you change a word it changes the meaning of the word? Words cause multiple misunderstandings. How many others find words tie them in knots? Get them down? Lead to more problems? Get them in trouble? How many find you are expected to be offended by a word you don’t understand?
Personally I do not know which are bad words and I do not really want to learn bad words. I do not want to learn and use them in the wrong places.
If a person uses a bad word around me I am not going to know unless I have heard it before. Nor am I going to know it was a bad word unless someone says oh that is a bad word. I can go along for weeks using a word I have heard without considering if it is a good word or a bad word.
Hope we can continue to chat further on words. And our feelings towards them being good or bad words.

[Kim73]

I agree words are very complicated things. I do not like them. I am different to you in that I do know good words and bad words and I have learnt these. However, I’m not generally offended by a particular bad word, I don’t take offence to it. I do think words can hurt though – that old wives tale is not true! I don’t think that comes down to whether you use good or bad though, so much as the intention behind what you are saying. You could say something using no bad words in but if the meaning of your sentence is hurtful then the words can still hurt someone. If I say “I don’t like you” to someone they will be hurt even though all the words in the sentence are ok, so it’s what are trying to say that causes the offence or upset not the particular word, for me anyway.

But as for words causing difficulties, misunderstanding, tying in knots – I can a can agree with this struggle, but in a different way. As I say, I have never liked words. I struggled with words a lot growing up but in a different way to you. I know the individual words and their meaning but always found it hard to find the write words to make a sentence to say what I wanted to say. I know the thought I want to express but I could never find the words to do it. I had an amazing teacher at school (she was a extra learning needs tutor) and she was trying to help me with writing and she always used to say to me “just say what’s in your head” and I never understood that expression. It took about a year and half of working with her before we/I realised that what she meant is most people have like an “internal dialogue” in their head like a conversation in their head and so think in words and she just wanted me to say those words out loud… But I don’t think in words. If I have a thought it’s in pictures or colours or shapes or a feeling. So I can’t just speak it, I have to work out how to put it into words first and that’s the bit I can’t often do, so her “just say what’s in your head” make no sense to me!
I’ve got a lot better now at converting those things into words as I’ve got older but it’s still something I find really hard and a lot of the time I get wrong and don’t quite manage to get across the same thing I’m trying to (it’s why I prefer writing to talking as it gives me longer to work it out). I also still find in conversation it often takes me too long to work out how to get what I’m thinking into words and by then the conversation has moved on, so I never say most of what I think/want to say, especially if it’s with more than just one other person. I tend to quieter in a group for this reason.
So yes… Words are tricky, not just for you, even if my reason is a different one!!

[Julie86]

I think I am the other way. Words pour out of me. But when they come in. They take a while to make sense. It is like a puzzle. I have to figure how the word is meant. My best example is The dog rides the train or how to train the dog. Both the same spoken word and same spelt word. But both have very different meanings.
I seem to find it harder with incoming information whether in writing or in audio.

I often find it easier to watch the human body for clues on there mood towards me.

Than listen to or read information for a person.

I can imagine a lot of people have issues with words.

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